Sports and a New Year filled with hopes and possibilities

As we bid farewell to 2014 it's time take stock of the Bay Area sports scene, and enjoy a Happy New Year picture from tennis champ Rafa Nadal! That one is for all my tennis team friends. While the local news lately has all been about the dysfunctional 49ers, it's nice to remember they are the exemption and not the norm. The Warriors still own the best record in the NBA 25-5 after winning again last night, blowing out the lowly 76ers 126-86.

Take notes, 49ers owner Jed York. If you truly want to win with class, watch Rafa on the tennis court and behind the microphone at press conferences. Humility is class and like respect it is earned with actions and behavior. Even after suffering grueling injuries, Nadal remains a true gentleman on and off the court. Much like the Giants who won their third world series in five years, Golden State is dealing with injuries without making excuses. The Dubs are playing unselfish basketball for first year coach Steve Kerr who like Bruce Bochy is urging his team to play for each other. Local fans whether die hard or casual are reacting much like they did with the Giants, wanting to support the young players forced into starting positions and rising to the occasion with a little help from their teammates.  At a holiday party last night, 9 year Sebastian was thrilled to see 11 of the 12 healthy Warriors play and score. Now that's the true meaning of a deep team, even without centers Andrew Bogut and Festus Ezeli. The Raiders ended the season much like they started it, with a blowout loss to Denver and a 3-13 record. The good news is that interim coach Tony Sparano who finished 3-9 did show the team they could win big games, especially the two against Kansas City and the 49ers. While owner Mark Davis is interviewing for the position, Sparano has his player's support, if that counts for anything. In the cruel business of sports, it seems like only the voice of owners and general managers count. The Sharks are also swimming in murky waters. having lost three straight. Coach Todd McLellan admitted his team was not playing hungry as they lost to Vancouver last night 3-1 and find themselves at 19-13-5 doubtful of even reaching the playoffs in 2015. They of course need a chance to redeem themselves for 2014's historic collapse after  blowing a 3-0 lead in a seven game series to the hated division rival LA Kings. The sharks play tonight in Anaheim for pride and what the new year can bring, hope for all. Happy New Year!

49ers vs Harbaugh: Irreconcilable differences turn to Michigan Gold

The Jim Harbaugh era is officially over in San Francisco and Michigan welcomed their former quarterback with open arms as if he were their Messiah. For those of us watching, it felt like the end of an ugly divorce with our "Dad" kicked out of the house and now living thousands of miles away.
At his best, Harbaugh with a hoarse voice but bright and easy smile, charmed the room much like he did after wins in Santa Clara and on the road. The man who saved the 49ers and returned them to the playoffs three years in a row is now as he said building a new house. "I see myself as a construction guy," said Harbaugh. "You build this home and hopefully it's a nice cathedral. But there's some dirt there and now you have to build another one. Even though you've done well, built some nice homes, you just have to do it again. I now want to live in one for a while."
Michigan is giving him a long term deal that will allow him to return the Wolverines to the National Championship. Seven years at 5 million a year, plus a two million dollar signing bonus and a healthy list of incentives that could in the end make him the highest paid college coach. But was it about money or those irreconcilable differences with 49ers management? It was sad listening to Niners CEO Jed York try and explain why he parted with the successful coach. York and general manager Trent Baalke want to be accountable but it's hard to see how Harbaugh at 44-19-1, becomes the point man for the team going 8-8 this season and missing the playoffs for the first time in his four year tenure. Yes, he fell short of claiming the Lombardi trophy and the true glory days of Bill Walsh and George Seifert but how did York and Baalke fare? They in essence built the walls between the organization, Harbaugh and the team. When legal issuers surfaced, York and Baalke were nowhere in sight. When injuries prevailed, where were York and Baalke? They claim they want to win with class, but show little when push comes to shove.  Everywhere I went today, people wanted to vent about the young, bratty 34 year old owner who just let one of the best NFL coaches go to Michigan. York is in the hot seat and the next move will be critical. As for Harbaugh, that smile speaks volume. "I am living the dream I've had since I was a young lad, about 9 years old," he said. "It's a decision I made with my heart. I'm very humbled, very honored." And as he walked away front he podium in Ann Arbor, someone yelled: "Who's got it better than us?" Harbaugh with that hoarse voice yelled back, "NOBODY." Certainly not the San Francisco 49ers who will watch the playoffs on TV while they look for a coach who can win the 2016 Super Bowl with class. Good luck with that Jed York.

49ers win last game of the season but loose Jim Harbaugh

The brutal business of the NFL played out this afternoon in Santa Clara where after beating Arizona 20-17, the 49ers wasted no time announcing they were "parting ways" with Coach Jim Harbaugh. While it wasn't a surprise, the questions continue flowing without answers as to what exactly went wrong with the organization and a successful coach who was loved by his players and fans who just wanted to win. The final game seemed anticlimactic after the announcement, but it serves as a perfect reminder that sports is just a business. While Harbaugh produced a winning 44-19-1 regular season record and 5 playoffs victories in four years, he did not do enough to please the team's management, specifically general manager Trent Baalke. On the tennis courts at Golden Gate park this morning, the talk was all about the Harbaugh rumors and the sadness that will accompany his exit. He did after all take the team to the NFC Championship Game three straight times and reached Super Bowl XLVII loosing to his brother, John Harbaugh's Baltimore Ravens. Aside from the victories, fans enjoyed his fiery style, and his infamous phrase: "Who's got it better than us? Nobody!" My friend Mary Ann, a true Faithful for decades simply said, "I cannot believe they're letting him go."

It is hard to believe, especially listening to his players after they awarded him the game ball.
Bruce Miller said he taught him so much over the past four seasons. "He's a great leader, a great coach," explained Miller. "He turns losers into winners. It was a  tough year. But we all wanted to finish on a high note for Coach."
And the Coach had nothing but praise for his men. "I've had the time of my life,"said Harbaugh. "I don't have the words for it. You work at the pleasure of the organization and  it's been a tremendous 4 years.  These players, this team, I feel great about the relationships made. I
felt we accomplished great things." Harbaugh didn't want to talk about Michigan and the offer awaiting him at his alma mater. He said those statements will come. He wanted to thank 49er fans, coaches and his tremendous football team, singling out players whose future with the team is also uncertain, like Frank Gore who passed the 1,000 yard rushing yard for the 8th time in his glorious career. Gore is schedule for unrestricted free agency for the first time in his NFL career.
"I don't have words for what an unwavering character Frank Gore is," said Harbaugh. "He is a tremendous player but an even better person. I have so much gratitude, respect for the players that have given their best. We battled from the beginning to the end"
And Gore shared the love. "He's a great coach. My best years, I played for him," said Gore. " I wish him the best. No matter where he ends up, he's going to be a winner. I just wanted to finish right for him and for my fans who've been with me since I was 21. This year was a disappointing year, but I wanted to finish the way a 49er is supposed to finish." Gore admitted he cried as he reflected on his past and his uncertain future.  "When I first got here I was 21, " said Gore. "I was always under contract. It was tough knowing this could be my last year. But I've played for great fans, and a great organization. I want to be back." As the business goes, Baalke this week expressed the organization's desire to have Gore return. "We would certainly like to have him back. Now, whether we can make that a reality or not, time will tell." The sad reality for Niners fans tonight is that the season is over. Yes, San Francisco won its last game to finish 8-8, but their winning coach is gone, and the future is uncertain.

Golden State shines at home after shaky holidays and Jim Harbaugh returns home?

The holidays have a way of taking us all on a wild ride. There's the high of creating wonderful memories that can last a lifetime, and then there's the low of unmatched expectations. The Warriors suffered a crushing blow by the LA Clippers on Christmas day in front of a national TV audience loosing 86-100. I was so exhausted from the day's festivities and disappointed after watching the Warriors drop a second game in Los Angeles that I couldn't even blog about it!  Tonight Golden State proved why they still own the best record in the NBA. First year coach Steve Kerr reiterated:  "To be a great team, we have to take care of the ball." And on slate night at Oracle, the Warriors returned to their winning ways by doing just that and taking care of Minnesota 110-97.

Lead by the Splash brothers, Stephen Curry with 25 points and Klay Thompson with 21, the home team took an early lead and never looked back with five players finishing in double digits, but even more impressive were the 32 assists dished out throughout the game. That unselfishness is what makes them so fun to watch and lifts their record to 24-5. Kerr knows he has a talented team, now he insists it's all about taking it to the next step. "We're a good team but we want to be a great team," said Kerr. "It's our focus. If we can focus and play 48 minutes, we're going to be very hard to beat, but we're not there yet. We need more discipline."
Perhaps that's exactly what Jim Harbaugh couldn't get from his 49ers. Unfortunately, it appears the rumors are in fact true, and tomorrow will be the fiery coach's last game calling plays for San Francisco. I am saddened by this because whether you liked him or not, there is little doubt he is a great coach and he was responsible for returning the 49ers to their glory day. No, he didn't win the Super Bowl, but in just four years, he took his team to the big game and was in the conversation every year, except  this one, when it appears Management had already decided he wasn't playing by their rules. It all comes down to getting along with the boss, and we all have to learn that lesson the hard way. Good luck in Michigan and Thanks for the memories, we won't forget you.

Warriors start a new streak with huge win over the Thunder

As I watched the Golden State Warriors battle Oklahoma City tonight, I spent most of the first half screaming at the TV. Falling behind by as many as 17 points, I was begging the Dubs to tighten their defense against Kevin Durant and Russell Westbrook. My son and husband reminded me that the players can't hear me. Durant, playing out of his mind, scored a season high 30 points in just 18 minutes, before he left the game with a sprained right ankle at the end of the second quarter. Helped by Durant's exit, and Coach Steve Kerr's halftime reminder to focus on defense, the Warriors outshot the Thunder in the second half to earn the hard fought 114-109 victory before an exuberant sell-out crowd at Oracle Arena. The Warriors were once again without their big man, center Andrew Bogut who is out indefinitely suffering from more serious problems in the knee than tendinitis.

No Bogut, no problem, time for his teammates to step it up. Stephen Curry led the way with 34 points, but as they have done in almost every game, he had a full cast of supporting players. Klay Thompson had 19 points, Daymond Green added 16, Harrison Barnes and Shaun Livingston each contributed 12 and Marreese Speights recorded 10.
Curry happily shared the credit. "We have a lot of great talent out here," said Curry. "It's not just me. We are having fun. Best thing for us is when we have everyone in it. Everyone has a role in winning and we are really enjoying the game."
And it shows. After the game, Coach Kerr was visibly thrilled, smiling and congratulating his players on the court.  The pivotal win begins a new streak after the heartbreaking loss in Memphis Tuesday which snapped the franchise-record 16 game win streak. The Warriors still own the best record in the NBA at 22-3 and are a joy to watch.

49ers Finally take a stand

It took four and half months and a second police incident, but the San Francisco 49ers today released defensive lineman Ray McDonald. For women and domestic violence advocates around the country, the action is a step in the right direction and one all NFL teams should emulate. The time has finally come to make every player in professional sports and men everywhere accountable for their behavior and send a firm message that domestic violence will not be tolerated. The 49ers initially allowed McDonald to continue playing while the first  domestic violence charge against him on August 31st was being investigated by the Santa Clara County District Attorney's office. Those charges were later dropped. However, this morning the San Jose Police department served a search warrant on McDonald's home in response to an unidentified woman's accusation of a sexual assault by McDonald at his home Tuesday.

The Niners swift action to cut McDonald is welcomed by those who for months criticized the team for lacking the leadership to act when the first case came to light. Women's rights group contend there is no excuse. They stress a pattern of behavior doesn't just change on its own. The National Football League has appointed a commission and is taking measures to change the existing culture and educate its players of their responsibilities. As parents we teach our children that their actions have consequences. This is where team owners are called upon to set standards each player must abide by, and if they fail then there is a high price to pay.  49ers general manager Trent Baalke acknowledged the distractions surrounding McDonald had reached a boiling point. "We as an organization have notified him and his agent that he will be terminated, released, immediately." Baalke said. "Ray and I had multiple conversations since the latest allegations and put together some criteria we felt he needed to do in order to stay in good standing. With these latest allegations, it was just one more situation that we just weren't willing to deal with anymore."
Niners fans who are surviving a nightmare 2014 season wondered if it could get any worse. At my book club this afternoon the topic of conversation was just how hard it is to talk about these issues. The majority were happy the team finally stepped up and did the right thing. But there is also sadness that McDonald couldn't get the help he needed before another woman had to suffer at his hands.
The mood surrounding the team is at an all time low. However, this can be that turning point where the character of the team can rise above controversy and set a new standard for the league to follow. So far, no word from the NFL but the conversation should continue. One thing every man needs to remember is that the victim is somebody's daughter and one day it could be their daughter unless as a country we decide domestic violence needs to end with education and counseling and realizing that it is a crime that will be punished.

Sad day for Warriors and Giants fans

The first bit of bad news came early this morning. As soon as I logged on and read Michael Morse was signing with the Miami Marlins for a two year, $16 million contract. While scores of fans like my friend Mary Ann logged onto Facebook to voice their heartfelt sadness, Giants management just wasn't willing to match the offer considering Morse wants to play first base and that's Brandon Belt's domain. But exactly how did Morse endear himself to so many in just one short year?

The 32 year old provided powerful hits when the Giants needed them most, but it was his personality, and obvious love of the game and life itself that transcended from the clubhouse to every seat at AT&T park.  This picture from the Giants' victory parade speaks volumes.  For fans like Karen, it's another blow to the heart, after already bidding farewell to "the Panda," Pablo Sandoval. "I just hate losing our fan favs," posted Karen on Gamer Babes (SF) Bay Area. "Who is going to be left of our WS winning team? All fan favorites seem to be unimportant to the front office."
No word from Brian Sabean and his masterminds, but plenty of fans posted that you can't argue with his success in building three World championship teams in five years.  As for Mose, he tweeted this: "It was incredible playing for fans whose love helped me elevate my game. You guys will forever be in my heart. @SFGiants. Thanks for the great memories and I will always cherish them and never forget them." A class act. We won't forget you either Michael Morse.
The Warriors are wishing they can forget today's game in Memphis. After a very sweet 16 record setting game winning streak, Golden State lost to the second best team in the NBA, the Grizzlies 105-98.
Without hanging his head, first year coach Steve Kerr made no excuses. "They punched us in the mouth to start the second quarter, and that was the difference in the game, " said Kerr. A second quarter that saw Memphis put up 20 straight points. But the Warriors didn't give up. Cutting the lead to two in the fourth quarter, but in the end, the home team proved to be too deep and too strong with its two big men, Marc Gason who scored 24 points and Zach Randolph adding 17.  The Dubs were without injured center Andrew Bogut for the fourth night in a row, and All-Star David Lee. While it wasn't their best shooting night, Klay Thompson finished with 22 points and on an off shooting night, Stephen Curry was 9 of 25 including just one of 10 from beyond the arc. Despite the loss, the Warriors were upbeat. "I thought we were going to win," said Kerr. "I always think we're going to win. It was just too much to overcome. That's a great team over there." Yet The Warriors remain the best team in the NBA at 21-3, Memphis is now 20-4.

49ers and Warriors: The end of an era, the beginning of another

As I said goodbye to my childhood friend Anne who is visiting from Washington State, I reflected on how time and space can sometimes freeze. We met forty years ago, and yet it seems like yesterday. Ours is the kind of easy friendship that doesn't require work. We can pick up at any time and call and check in on each others lives and families without hesitation, judgements, regrets or guilt. It is for me, the definition of an eternal friendship where love and acceptance of who we are, just the way we are is ever present. How does this all relate to Sunday's 49ers and Warriors you ask?
It wasn't that long ago when management and the faithful were completely enamored with Coach Jim Harbaugh as he jumped with ease from a winning Stanford team to leading San Francisco to the playoffs his first three years. But in his fourth year of a five year contract it has become all about Harbaugh as his team was eliminated from the playoffs after a 17-7 loss in Seattle. The truth is, Harbaugh's demise probably started when the same Seahawks sent the 49ers home instead of to the Super Bowl last January. It's no secret owner Jed York and general Manager Trent Baalke have lost their patience with Harbaugh.

Seattle was indeed a must win game and the 49ers just couldn't do it. Blame it on injuries, penalties, or luck, nothing changes the fact that San Francisco has lost three in a row and stands at 7-7. So with two games left, now what? Harbaugh tried to put on a positive spin on things after the loss. " I'm very proud of the effort. It was plus, plus," he said. "We never give in. We keep fighting which our guys did today. It's what a professional does, focuses every week, every practice, every play, every ounce of energy he has." And those may just be the words of a man looking for his next job. Unlike my lifetime friendship with Anne, Harbaugh and the 49ers family have lost their way.  The future is now uncertain.  The the formula for success has failed and all the playoff-bound teams have it better than Harbaugh and his gang.
Which brings us to rookie Coach Steve Kerr and the Golden State Warriors. Now they surely can say: "Nobody's got it better than us!"

As I switched over from the despair of the 49ers game to the Warriors telecast I could almost see the difference in attitudes. Granted, Golden State was trailing, but you had a sense New Orleans wasn't going to be where the NBA's best team was going to end its record breaking winning streak. They took it to overtime, but Stephen Curry scored 34 points  to ensure his Dubs would make it 16 victories in a row and improve to 21-2 beating the Pelicans 128-122. Much like the 49ers, Golden State is suffering through critical injuries that have kept All-Star David Lee off the court all season and for the third night starting center Andrew Bogut sat out with right knee tendinitis. Then on Sunday afternoon both Draymond Green and Harrison Barnes had to leave temporarily to clean up bloodied noses. Barnes even received two stitches in his mouth. No problem, other Warriors stepped in and continued filling the huge holes.   Klay Thompson added 29 points and as has been the case every game, someone new makes a huge contribution, this time it was Andre Iguodala who had a season high 20 points off the bench.  Add Shaun Livingston with 12 points and Marreese Speights with 10 and you have a team that is playing totally together for each other. And that has the makings of a win and a combination that like a life long friendship continues to bloom over time.

Sun, Tennis and the Warriors' Winning Streak

The sun returned to the Bay Area this morning and my tennis gang hit the courts with a vengeance. The much needed rain is not a tennis player's best friend.  Just ask Lilian who posted on Facebook what we've all been experiencing: " Feeling sad." I teamed up with Bobby and we took on two of the youngsters who pound the ball. But it's not how hard you strike, we surprised them with a straight set victory 6-1, 6-2!

 I rushed home for the early Warriors game in Dallas, hoping the winning streak could continue despite the news that center Andrew Bogut would miss yet another game with knee tendinitis.  No problem. Make it 15 in a row. 9 straight on the road. New coach Steve Kerr extends his best start record to 20-2. Merry Christmas Joe Lacob and Peter Guber you just beat the league's best scoring offense 105-98.
It wasn't even that close. Lead by the Splash Brothers, Stephen Curry with 29 points and Klay Thompson adding 25 points and the player Coach Kerr calls the "heartbeat" of the team, Draymond Green with 20 points; Golden State is without a doubt the hottest team in the NBA. The most amazing fact continues to be that they are still without one of the their key players, David Lee, and today, even without Bogut, the entire team pulled together. Coach Kerr stressed after the game that the key continues to be defense and taking care of the ball.
"It's who we are," said Kerr. "We have a lot of length and activity. We did a good job challenging shooters. It was a great effort by everyone."
Curry also credits his new coach. "He says he inherited a great team,"explained Curry. "He is not
playing hero coach, trying to change things, he is taking what was in place and you couldn't ask for a better start."
Indeed, for the season or the game at American Airlines Center, where the visitors registered the year's best first quarter 39-18. At the half the Warriors lead was 66-44. Dallas tried to come back, but Golden State countered with Green and its defense. Our old friend, former Warriors star Monta Ellis lead the Mavericks with 24 points and sparked a 17-5 rally in the fourth but it was too little too late.  Asked if the streak is adding any anxiety to their play, Coach Kerr smiled and said: "We don't feel any pressure. We're having fun," a smiling Kerr continued. "Our guys enjoy playing together. If it ends tomorrow, who cares, we'll keep playing."
A feeling shared by weekend tennis players all around the Bay.

Mamas want our sons to grow up to be like Madison Bumgarner and Steve Kerr

On the day Madison Bumgarner officially received the Sportsman of the Year Award, I couldn't wait to hear his acceptance speech and see him all dressed up in his suit. Rumor has it, it's his first "real" suit. How wonderful is that? Our guy did not disappoint. He stood at the podium much like he did on the mound. Seemingly unfazed, even if he was a little nervous, he was smooth and genuine. In that Mad Bum easy going manner we are so accustomed to, he first thanked the audience for being there and reminded us all of why he's such an ace.

"This is a huge blessing. Just to be a part of this and have the recognition," said Bumgarner. "I couldn't be more humbled. In the game of baseball you get humbled a lot, and none of it compares to this at all."
The 25 year old lefty didn't mention the world series or the MVP award. He didn't remind the audience of the multitude of records he's broken. He just gave thanks.
"I want to thank my teammates. If it wasn't for them, there is no chance of me standing here today," said Bumgarner. "I want to thank Pam and Larry Bauer for being here. I know it's a busy time. I want to thank my manager Bruce Bochy, the coaching staff and front office. It truly is a blessing to be part of the Giants organization."
He recalled how the Giants were the ones who believed in him when he was just a high school kid with one pitch. Then to conclude the 2:24 minute speech he proved why every mother in the room and around the world would love their babies to grow up to be like him. " Last but not least, I want to thank my wife," added Bumgarner. "There's no way I would have been able to do any of this stuff without her. I love you and I look forward to spending the rest of our lives together."
As a mother of two athletes that is how I want my children to behave, with humility and gratitude. To recognize you are not alone and to give thanks. Yes, you have extraordinary talent, but talent alone doesn't win championships.

At Oracle Arena tonight, Golden State Warriors first year Coach Steve Kerr, sounded an awful lot like the Sportsman of the Year. He became the first rookie NBA coach to win 19 of his first 21 games. The Warriors beat a tough Houston Rockets team 105-93 and extended their franchise best winning streak to 14 games. Again it was not a pretty game, especially in the first half. But somehow, Kerr inspired his players and put them in a position to win without their key defender, 7 footer Andrew Bogut.  Klay Thompson kept shooting despite  a slow start and finished with 21 points, Stephen Curry and Harrison Barnes added 20 each. Five Warriors recorded double figures. After the game, Kerr had nothing by praise for his team.
"Down the stretch we just had tremendous effort from everybody on the floor," said Kerr who just like Bumgarner shared the credit for his NBA best 19-2 record.
"It means I'm the luckiest coach in NBA history because I inherited the best team in the NBA," explained Kerr. " I love these guys. I love coming to work. It's a great organization with unbelievable fans."
And the sell-out crowd at Oracle is returning the love. Just like Giants fans, they know they have the real deal: true winners know how to play together and share the credit. If only the 49ers were listening...

How fun it is to be a Golden State Warrior

When seven foot center Andrew Bogut grabbed his knee just three minutes into the game against the Timberwolves in Minneapolis Monday night, Warriors fans held their breath. The good news is, it appears to be right knee tendinitis. And after the game, he tweeted: "No worries. I'll be good. Nothing too serious."  Golden State proved its depth.  With Bogut out, the entire team rallied together to add one more to their consecutive win franchise record. Make it a lucky 13 victories in a row. The Warriors outplayed the t-wolves 102-86 to reach an impressive NBA best 18-2 record. This wasn't a pretty win. In the first half the visitors shot just 38 percent, committed 10 turnovers and their shooting ace, Stephen Curry went 0 for 4 from his favorite 3-point range.
Luckily for the Warriors, Minnesota was without three of its key players and despite poor shooting, Golden State went into the half with a 9 point lead. However, first year Coach Steve Kerr, wasn't happy. "I thought it was not our best effort in the first half," said Kerr. "There was a lack of effort and focus.

But in the second half our guys responded." It must have been the stern half-time speech, because in the third quarter, Curry
finally hit a three during a 13-0 run that proved why this Warriors team is so special. Curry finished with 21 points as did his splash brother Klay Thompson. Three other teammates joined in the double digit party. Both Shaun Livingston and Marreese Speights contributed 12 points and Draymond Green added 10.
"Our guys are unselfish,"explained Kerr. "They play for each other." After the game, Thompson agreed with his Coach. "This team is so deep," said Thompson. "It's what's going to carry us. We don't just have 5 or 6 players, we have 10 or 11 guys that can really effect the game. Everyone can contribute and that's what makes this a special team."
No doubt about it, the Warriors are fun to watch. They genuinely are having a good time on the court. You can see it in their energy, the smiles and the way they relate to each other. Maybe 49ers Coach Jim Harbaugh and quarterback Colin Kaepernick can watch a replay of the game and get some pointers on how to play as a team, even when one of your key players goes down early.

49ers embarrassed in Oakland as playoff dreams fade

The good news is Raiders fans like my friend Maria can legitimately say they won The Battle of The Bay 2014. The Silver and Black now lead their cross-bay rivals 7-6 in the series. The bad news is, while not mathematically eliminated from the playoffs, the San Francisco 49ers appear to be spinning out of control as they fell mercilessly to what was the worst team in the NFL, 24-13. The sentiment among the Faithful varies, but my tennis team Captain Nina compared this loss to the crushing of a higher ranked player by a lowly 3.0. Ugly doesn't even come close. Luckily there are fans like Cara who insists things have been much worse, and win or loose she is still a 49ers fan.
Maybe it's the soap opera surrounding the Niners that has even the national media questioning what is happening in Santa Clara. The telecast showed viewers the brief but perhaps a little too cordial handshake and greeting between Coach Jim Harbaugh and Raiders owner Mark Davis before the game, as rumors continue to circulate concerning Harbaugh's future. The dysfunction of both teams masked by the easy smiles.

After the loss, Harbaugh was visibly upset, but contends he hasn't let the outside distractions affect his focus.
"My priorities, number one, are winning football games," said Harbaugh. "Number two, the welfare of our players and staff, and lastly my personal and professional future."  
The nightmare for the visitors this afternoon started on the very first play of the game as embattled quarterback Colin Kaepernick overthrew Michael Crabtree and passed the ball right to Oakland's safety Brandian Ross. The Raiders took the early 3-0 lead. However, Kaepernick did find Bruce Miller for a short 8 yard touchdown pass after effectively moving the ball with a nice run by Fank Gore and even a pass to Vernon Davis. By halftime, the score was tied at 10. But the second half was all Raiders. Sparked by a raucous crowd the defense sacked  Kaepernick  5 times. He completed just 18 of 33 passes for 174 yards.  And the niners defense that so often has saved the team, had no answer for Rookie quarterback Derek Carr who completed 22 of 28 passes for 254 yards , 3 touchdowns and no interceptions. The game ended with Kaepernick's second interception. A reflection of the direction the two bay area teams are heading in. The Niners quarterback who said very little to the media after the Thanksgiving massacre at the hands of the Seahawks avoided the cameras immediately after the game. Instead it was the rookie, Carr who stole the show with his best game of the season, putting  on an offensive clinic. Showing his leadership, Carr thanked his players. "I gave it everything I have, we all did" said Carr. "Our receivers did a great job finding the open window. We have great chemistry. I owe them dinner, wherever they want to go. These guys deserve that. They deserve so much credit. We all worked really hard"
Raiders interim Head Coach Tony Sparano also shared the credit.
"It takes a lot of courage to do what that group did today," said Sparano. "I love these guys."
The love seems to be missing in San Francisco.  With what has become a familiar short answer session, Kaepernick simply offered this:
 "I have to play better," Kaepernick said.
For his part, Gore admitted he was "in shock," something many 49er faithful are sharing in.
"We don't feel like we are ourselves," explained the 31 year old running back. "We haven't found a rhythm all season."
It's hard to win football games without love and rhythm in San Francisco, that was after all the recipe for Harbaugh's success the past three years when he so eloquently asked: "Who's got it better than us?"  The answer to that question lies in the black hole today, and the path only gets darker as the Niners now must travel to Seattle to face their nemesis. Despite the grim outcome, Harbaugh isn't throwing in the towel yet. "There is no surrendering," Harbaugh concluded.
While Raiders fans are celebrating tonight, 49ers fans are left wondering what happened to their championship team with so much talent?

It's a wonderful life and time to be a Warriors fan

As I sit here watching "It's a Wonderful Life" after the exciting conclusion of the Warriors-Chicago Bulls game, I can't help but marvel in the similarities. Steve Kerr is today's version of George Bailey. He went back to Chicago where he won three NBA titles as a player, this time as a first year coach chasing his new team's franchise record for consecutive wins. And yes, they did it. With their 12th victory in a row, the 2014 Dubs broke a record from 1971 and own the best record in the NBA at 17-2. Kerr like George Bailey believes in community: playing together, feeding off each other, coming through for one another. The Warriors are looking an awful lot like the Giants who won their third world series in five years. Similar to the Orange and Black, the Blue and Gold are finding new ways to win close games with a different hero almost every night. Tonight it was Draymond Green who scored a career high 31 points, making 7 of 13 three pointers. His supporting cast included four others in double figures, led by Klay Thomposn with 24 points,  Stephen Curry with 19, and both Harrison Barnes and Marreese Speights added 11 points each. That scoring plus the crushing defense and rebounding from Andrew Bogut is why Coach Kerr like Bailey considers himself the luckiest man in the NBA. "They're easy to coach," said Kerr. "They're really talented. They're unselfish."

As for Green, Kerr isn't at all surprised by his performance. "The numbers are incredible, that's who he is," explained Kerr. " He's a winner. He's given us a new dimension with his three point shooting." And showing off the kind of unselfishness Bailey always portrayed in Bedford Falls, Green like his coach, shared his night's success.
"Those guys did a great job of finding me," said Green. "I couldn't have done it if they hadn't put me in that situation. I was getting wide open looks at threes." The magical season for the Warriors continues Monday night on the road when they face the Timberwolves at the Target Center.
As the 49ers prepare to play the Raiders tomorrow at the Coliseum, it would do both teams good to remember the story of George Bailey. If you live your life to the fullest; sharing your gifts with others, you will indeed be the richest person in the world. Words to live by for all of us.

Not giving up adds to a perfect 10

It took a Herculean effort to get all seven moms together. We started talking about it months ago, but work, college trips, kids' sports, school activities and illnesses created enormous obstacles every time we picked a date. Even as yet another night was suggested, we never gave up. After several attempts it finally happened, and the joy around the table resonated through the Beach Chalet tonight. There is nothing like the laughter of women when we get together as a group without boundaries. Despite our time apart, we sat across each other as if it were just yesterday that are kids were first going off to college or learning how to drive.

 These moments of us all being together, sharing the changes in our lives, being there for each other to listen and partake in the fellowship of women made it all worth while. As I watched the end of the Warriors game back at home, I thought about how despite having an off night, new Coach Steve Kerr is instilling that same sense of fellowship in his team. The feeling that if they just keep doing what they know they are capable of doing, they will persevere. Make it 10 wins in a row after an impressive come from behind 98-97 victory over Orlando in front of a raucous home crowd. The player taking  the winning shot? Stephen Curry of course. Despite missing two previous 3 point attempts, Curry faked out his defender and this time made the long range bucket with just 2.2 seconds left in the game. "It's just kind of a rush that every player loves to experience," Curry said. "Especially at home when you're able to do that and get a huge win. You remember those moments."
The Dubs are remembering many moments as they extended the best start in team's history to 15-2 and are just one game away from matching the franchise record for consecutive victories set in 1971-72.
After the game, Coach Kerr admitted this was one of those ugly wins when his team turned the ball over 10 times in just the first half. "We didn't execute well tonight," explained Kerr. "We are lucky we have the players that we do because down the stretch they come through."
Curry finished with 22 points, Klay Thompson scored 20, Draymond Green added 12 and Harrison Barnes contributed 11. While Andrew Bogut only tallied 7 points, he recorded 12 rebounds, 3 assists and 5 blocked shots at critical points of the game.
Asked how much fun he's having, Bogut minced no words. "It helps when you're winning. When you win a lot of games, everyone is loving life," said Bogut with a smile. "We're enjoying ourselves. We have a good group of guys that like each other and see each other away from court."
Enjoying life together, much like our group of moms and that in itself adds up to a perfect 10.

Dysfunction in families and football

The kids are back at college after a fun and eventful Thanksgiving week of family dinners and seemingly endless activities with friends. It's now time to assess the damage, recharge our batteries and prepare for the next go around: Christmas. How crazy was it? Here's a small taste without naming names. There was the hot blooded uncle screaming about the size of a refrigerator in the parent's remodel. The niece who was late because she missed the bus and then had to leave early to meet up with her boyfriend. Then there was the poor grandma who can't hear but won't wear hearing aids and screams, "what?" all night long. Or how about the teens attached to their phones, snap chatting away as they plan their own exit. Sound familiar? It's what we lovingly refer to as our dysfunctional families,  not unlike our local football teams. With just four games left in the regular season all eyes are on the gridiron.  For Oakland Raiders fans the outlook is beyond dismal. Sunday's 52-0 loss in St. Louis is the second worst in team history dating back to John F. Kennedy's Administration.

While we may long for the simpler days of 1961,  when cell phones were nonexistent, nobody wants to see the silver and black in this state of self-destruction. At 1-11, embarrassing doesn't come close to describing the team that was once the pride of Oakland. Heads will continue to roll, but maybe the person to blame is the man most associated with the spirit and success of the Raiders, Al Davis. His Napoleon like leadership style did not prepare his son or anyone else to take over after his death. He didn't let them in by sharing his knowledge, and the result is much like what happens in a family when the leader is missing and the ship runs aground. The story in San Francisco is not quite as grim, but for the 49er faithful who last year were a completed TD pass away from the Super Bowl, it's heartbreaking to witness their playoff dreams fading away. It isn't over yet, but the Thanksgiving massacre at the hands of the Seahawks at home still hurts. And then there's the behind the scenes drama starring Coach Jim Harbaugh, CEO Jed York and even the GM's daughter adding to the stress of recording their fifth loss for the first time since Coach Harbaugh moved in. This family is also in need of therapy. Winning of course is the best remedy, and facing their cross bridge rival Raiders Sunday can provide comfort for at least one side of the family. After all, it's impossible to please everyone in the modern blended family.